Pleasure is not a bad word. And it isn't just about sex. Notice where you deprive yourself of pleasure--when and why you punish, distract or shame yourself in your life. I guarantee you these are the exact same patterns blocking your pleasure sexually. Don't have enough money because it all goes to your kids? I bet you don't have enough time or energy for your sexual pleasure either because....yep...you gave it all to your kids. Have too much drama in your life---family issues, people need you, etc. etc.? I'm willing to bet you over-give in the bedroom as well and completely neglect or repress your needs and desires.
How to change this? You're not going to like it at first. Do the opposite of what you're doing. Try the thing you're uncomfortable with, as long as you aren't abusing anyone (and you're probably not). Moms who give all their resources to their kids. Stop. They don't need 5 pairs of shoes. They don't need the sparkly unicorn ones, though YOU might. Say no. They are not going to die. Hire a sitter and meet a lover or engage in some pleasure. Go out. Over-givers--say no. Turn off your phone. Book a massage. Ask for touch. Ask to receive in the bedroom. Practice noticing and feeling and then communicating your desires.
If you want pleasure in your life you have to claim it. You can't give enough to fill your children's every need and you can't single-handedly save the world in a day or even a lifetime. Trust me, I know. So invest in yourself. Hire a sitter. Sign up for that program you've been eyeing. Book the trip. Jump off the cliff into the sea of your desire. Then stay in the energy of making it happen. The sea may get rough a few times, but I promise you, those of us who are already in the water will throw you a life preserver. You can get on my boat. I'll jump in and swim with you to new shores. Or, you never know, a dolphin might catch you and take you for a magikal ride. Or you might even transform into a mermaid. You never know what magic and mysteries are in store for you in you stay on the same furrowed path on the shore.
I know you can do it. The leap is the hardest part. I'm waiting with open arms in the sea of possibility.
If you need someone to hold your hand while you jump, I'm here. Or maybe you already jumped but you're treading water? I can hold you as you explore your desires and learn skills to create them. Schedule a free 60 minute pleasure possibility session with me here.